Here are a few challenges successful people overcome and how they do it. Where others see impenetrable barriers, successful people see challenges to embrace and obstacles to overcome.
It’s truly fascinating how successful people approach problems. Their ability to let go of negativity boosts their confidence in the face of hardship, which otherwise holds so many sensible people back.
Furthermore, Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania has conducted extensive studies on this phenomenon and discovered that the challenges successful people overcome are fueled by one critical distinction—whether you believe that your failures stem from personal deficits beyond your control or are mistakes you can amend with effort.
Success isn’t the only thing we determine by our mindset. Seligman has found much higher rates of depression in people who attribute their failures to personal deficits. Optimists fare better; they treat failure as learning experiences and believe they can do better in the future.
This success mindset requires emotional intelligence (EQ), and it’s no wonder that, among the million-plus people that TalentSmartEQ has tested, 90% of top performers have high EQs.
Maintaining the success mindset isn’t easy. There are seven things, in particular, that tend to shatter it. These challenges drag people down because they appear to be barriers that cannot be overcome. However, these barriers are challenges successful people overcome, as they don’t let challenges hold them back.
Seven Challenges Successful People Overcome
Challenges Successful People Overcome #1: Age
Age really is just a number. Successful people don’t let their age define who they are and what they are capable of. Just ask Betty White or any young, thriving entrepreneur.
I remember a professor in graduate school who told our class that we were all too young and inexperienced to do consulting work. He said we had to go work for another company for several years before we could hope to succeed as independent consultants. I was the youngest person in the class, and I sat there doing work for my consulting clients while he droned on.
Without fail, people feel compelled to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do because of your age. This is number one out of seven challenges successful people overcome as they just don’t listen to these people. They follow their heart and allow their passion—not the body they’re living in—to be their guide.
Challenges Successful People Overcome #2: What Other People Think
When you draw your sense of pleasure and satisfaction from comparing yourself to others, you relinquish control over your own destiny. While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to hold up your accomplishments to anyone else’s, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.
Successful people know that caring about what other people think is a waste of time and energy. When successful people feel good about something that they’ve done, they don’t let anyone’s opinions take that away from them.
Challenges Successful People Overcome #3: Toxic People
Successful people believe in a simple notion: you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Consider this—brilliant pairs founded some of the most successful companies in recent history. Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak of Apple lived in the same neighborhood, Bill Gates and Paul Allen of Microsoft met in prep school, and Sergey Brin and Larry Page of Google met at Stanford.
Just as great people help you to reach your full potential, toxic people drag you right down with them. Negativity, cruelty, victim syndrome, or plain craziness from toxic people creates stress and strife you should avoid at all costs.
If you’re unhappy with where you are in your life, just take a look around. More often than not, the people you’ve surrounded yourself with are the root of your problems.
Challenges Successful People Overcome #4: Fear
Fear is nothing more than a lingering emotion that your imagination powers. Danger is real. It’s the uncomfortable rush of adrenaline you get when you almost step in front of a bus. Fear is a choice. Successful people know this better than anyone does, so they flip fear on its head. They crave the euphoric feeling that comes from conquering their fears.
Don’t ever hold back in life just because you feel scared. I often hear people say, “What’s the worst thing that can happen to you? Will it kill you?” Yet, death isn’t the worst thing that can happen to you…
Challenges Successful People Overcome #5: Negativity
Life won’t always go the way you want it to, but when it comes down to it, you have the same 24 hours in the day as everyone else does. Successful people make their time count. Instead of complaining about how things could have been or should have been, they reflect on everything they have to be grateful for. Then they find the best solution available, tackle the problem, and move on.
When the negativity comes from someone else, successful people avoid it by setting limits and distancing themselves from it. Think of it this way:
“If the complainer were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke?”
Of course not. You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with all negative people.
A great way to stop complainers in their tracks is to ask them how they intend to fix the problem they’re complaining about. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.
Challenges Successful People Overcome #6: The Past or the Future
Like fear, the past and the future are products of your mind. No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future. Successful people know this, and they focus on living in the present moment. It’s impossible to reach your full potential if you’re constantly somewhere else, unable to fully embrace the reality (good or bad) of this very moment.
To live in the moment, you must do two things:
1) Accept your past. If you don’t make peace with your past, it will never leave you and it will create your future. Successful people know the only good time to look at the past is to see how far you’ve come.
2) Accept the uncertainty of the future, and don’t place unnecessary expectations upon yourself. Worry has no place in the here and now. As Mark Twain once said,
Challenges Successful People Overcome #7: The State of the World
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time and you’ll see it’s just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It’s easy to think the world is heading in a downhill spiral fast.
And who knows? Maybe it is. However, successful people don’t concern themselves with such matters, as they avoid dwelling on things beyond their control. Instead, they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort. Successful people focus their attention on all the things they’re grateful for, and they look for the good that’s happening in the world. They focus their effort on doing what they can every single day to improve their own lives and the world around them, because these small steps are all it takes to make the world a better place.
“They focus their effort on doing what they can every single day to improve their own lives and the world around them…”
Bringing It All Together
Your mindset drives your success. With discipline and focus, you can ensure that these seven obstacles never hold you back from reaching your full potential.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Travis Bradberry, Ph.D.
Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning coauthor of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and the cofounder of TalentSmartEQ® the world’s leading provider of emotional intelligence tests and training serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. Publishers have translated his bestselling books into 25 languages, and they are available in over 150 countries
Dr. Bradberry is a LinkedIn Influencer and a regular contributor to Forbes, Inc., Entrepreneur, The World Economic Forum, and The Huffington Post. He has contributed to Newsweek, BusinessWeek, Fortune, Fast Company, USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The Harvard Business Review, which have also featured his work.