Suspicious

Rush to Curiosity, Not Advice

WHEN TO USE Use when you’ve already decided what someone’s behavior means. WHAT TO DO Before the conversation, write the story you’re assuming about this person. Then ask three questions: What is this person protecting? What are they fearing? What are they trying to achieve? If you can’t answer with confidence, you’re assuming an incomplete…

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Breathe Before the Story

WHEN TO USE Use when you’re about to react to something that feels pointed or threatening. WHAT TO DO Before you decide what the feedback, silence, or message means, take three slow breaths (in through your nose, out through your mouth). Work back through the story: who was there, what happened, what stress did you…

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